I want to shed a light on another matter. April is the Sexual Assault Awareness month. Did you know?
Younger People Are at the Highest Risk of Sexual Violence
- Ages 12-34 are the highest risk years for rape and sexual assault.3
- Those age 65 and older are 92% less likely than 12-24 year olds to be a victim of rape or sexual assault, and 83% less likely than 25-49 year olds.4
This blog is directed to the person who decided it was okay to reach under my skirt in broad daylight.
I remember that day so clearly. It was a sunny day in April, 2015. I was full of life and I was ready to start my day. I came up with a great idea to surprise my husband at work. You see, him and I were just 2 weeks of love and being a newlywed couple. So why not surprise him. I decided to wear a skirt with stockings, a cardigan and boots. Once I was ready, I grabbed my headphones and purse and headed out. Some of you didn’t know my husband drove a stick shift car (I didn’t know how to drive that well) but I also didn’t have my license yet. So the bus was my transportation when he wasn’t around.
I was walking, enjoying my music. I felt a presence behind me. I turned and looked and noticed there was this guy walking with no shirt on and was on the phone. Although he was walking a little too close for comfort. I still turned and proceeded on my way to the bus station. In that moment I knew I should have completely stopped and let him pass. But I was determined to make it to my bus on time. With that mistake he reached and grabbed my bottom. I turned around and screamed ” Are you F..ing serious” before I could grab him he ran off. But it caught the attention of a local body shop, who saw where he ran too.
I called 911 and met an officer at the bus station. He called for a back up and they brought the k-9 as well. Cops interviewed those who were able to hear my scream. After an hour of searching, the k-9 couldn’t pick up a scent. The older officer shrugged it off and looked me as if I deserved it based on what I was wearing and the fact the guy who did it was black. He wrapped up the search. But luckily enough the first officer on the scene had a sense of compassion. He offered me a ride to meet my husband. He calmed me down durning the ride.
Every since that day, I still do not like any male presence walking behind me. I still toss and turn at night everytime that day comes.
My question to the man, Did you know?
Did you know I was pregnant?
Did you know that you left me with feeling of disgust with myself?
Did you know that the cops would look at me as if I didn’t matter because you and I were black?
Did you know I was being looked at as if I asked for it based on what I was wearing?
Did you know I cried myself to sleep that day?
Did you know that you brought me back to my childhood?
Did you know it took me awhile to feel comfortable with my husband again?
I faced quite a bit of trauma in my life. I still deal with flash backs. But the one thing I do know is you can’t silence my voice now. Not only am I stronger, but I am powerful. I will never allow someone to make me feel that way again.
Here is a direct number to the sexual assault hotline. Use your voice. My inbox is always open to chat.
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